When thinking about what to do with the cremated remains of your loved there are just a few rules, but your possibilities are near endless. You want to remember your loved one into the future in a way that keeps their uniqueness alive with you. So, take your time in making the right decision. It needs to be the right decision for you now and also in the future.

Things to consider are:

  • Did my loved one express their wishes in what they would like done with their remains?
  • Do I want a permanent memorial place where I and other family members can visit?
  • Did other family members want to keep some of the remains.  There is no obligation for remains be kept together and they can be divided for different people and purposes.

There are endless opportunities available to you in Victoria in relation to dealing with your loved ones cremated remains. Some are more traditional and some very unique. Take your time in considering your options and you will know what the right decision will be for you, your family and the perfect way to honour your loved one.

Here are a few ideas for you:

Cemeteries and Memorial Parks

Memorial Parks offer a number of options for cremated remains. 

  • You may choose to purchase a cremation memorial, which could be a niche in a wall, or in a garden bed. Each cemetery have various options available and you will need to contact the cemetery involved for their options and pricing.
  • Scattering of Ashes can be done in cemetery gardens. Once again please contact the cemetery you are considering for their options and pricing.

Victorian law states that there is no requirement to dispose of cremated human remains in a public cemetery. So think a little outside the box and have in the forefront of your mind – what is the best way to remember my loved one?

Scattering remains in Victoria

There is no general permit required for scattering cremated remains in Victoria.

Your loved one may have a favourite place, holiday destination, or somewhere special that holds a significant memory. Any such places would be ideal for scattering the remains of your loved one.  Just follow the guidelines below in your choice of location.

Government owned public land and parks

Local councils and other public bodies have varying requirements concerning the disposal of cremated remains, with some even having no formal policy at all. For example, scattering ashes in the Botanic Gardens in Melbourne is prohibited, but Hobsons Bay City Council expressly permits the scattering of ashes on land owned by the council. To be safe, contact the local council where the land is located to obtain permission if you wish to scatter ashes on public land.

Private land

You can inter or scatter cremated remains on your own privately-owned property without needing any other permission. If the private property is owned by someone else you will need permission from the owner of the land.

This is often a lovely idea.  Your backyard, under a special tree, beneath a favourite rose bush, under a favourite bench.  Always keep in mind though the prospect of possibly moving at a later date and if this would bother you at all.

The Living Urn, enables you to plant a tree, plant or flower easily with your loved ones remains, to create a special long lasting memorial.

Bodies of water

You do not need a permit or permission to scatter ashes at sea, or in rivers. However, keep in mind a few things:

  • If you are scattering from a vessel it is a good idea to get permission from the boat owner to scatter. See this article about scattering from a cruise ship.  
  •  If you are at the beach or on a pier be mindful of other members of the public when scattering. 
  •  Often it is quite windy by the water, so be mindful of the direction of the wind when scattering. You don’t want to have remains scatter back to land or into anyone.

An alternative to scattering in water is to use a specifically designed urn for dispersing remains directly into a body of water. You simply place the urn into a body of water and the urn will float away with the natural tide. Over time the urn dissolves and the remains are dispersed into the water. The Eco Water Urn from The Living urn is a beautiful example.

There are a number of charter companies that offer Memorial Charters in Victoria. Here are just a couple:

http://www.melbournefishingcharters.com.au/scattering-of-ashes

General Tips

If scattering remains be mindful of the following thoughts, which will help make the experience a little easier and more pleasant for everyone.

  • Consider the container the remains are in. Containers from the crematorium are difficult to open (often with a plug that needs a flat screwdriver to lift it off) and often not easy to scatter from. Ensure you know how to open the receptacle before the moment comes to scatter.
  • Alternatively consider transferring the remains into a receptacle specifically designed for easily scattering remains, such as the Eco Scattering Urn.
  • Be aware of the direction of the wind when scattering remains. Have guests stand upwind to avoid any airborne remains blowing into family or friends.
  • Consider other people.  If scattering in a public place remember other people have every right to be there also. Be respectful and if needed, discreet. Choose a time and a place that avoids large numbers of members of the public.

Of course you can always choose to keep your loved ones remains at home with you. As we all know – there’s no place like home.

If you are after something a little outside the box the ways to create keepsakes or memorialise your loved ones through the cremated remains are endless.  Here’s just a few ideas for you.

Creating keepsake jewellery

You can have a piece of your loved one with you at all times by having some of their remains made into personal jewellery pieces.

A couple of keepsake jewellery makers are:

www.keepsakejewellery.com.au

www.memorialjewellery.com.au

Tattoos

Thinking of getting your loved ones name or a special image tattooed onto your body?  Well now special ink can be made up with some of their remains for that special tattoo you are considering

www.cremationink.com

Vinyl Record

Did your loved one have a special love of music?  If so, consider having their remains pressed into a special vinyl record.

www.andvinyly.com

Glass

Having a beautiful glass piece created by glass blowers which include remains. Victorian based Healesville Glass blower creates some stunning pieces.

www.memorialglass.com.au

Fireworks

Go out with a bang? NSW based Ashes to Ashes creates fireworks with your loved ones ashes.  Do remember though it is illegal for anyone to release fireworks in Victoria and a special permit is required if you are intending to do this in Victoria.

www.ashestoashes.com.au

Diamonds

Lastly, if none of these options seem enough to show your love for your loved one, why not a diamond.  Have some of their remains turned into diamonds for an everlasting personal keepsake.

https://www.heart-in-diamond.com.au/

Remember just a few small rules and then your options are boundless.  You will know what is the right way to scatter or memorialise your loved ones remains in a way that reflects their personality.

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