When a loved one passes away, there is no one blueprint for grief. There may be elements of grief that seem to affect everyone at some point in our journeys, but the panorama of emotions we feel is unique. There truly is no normal way to grieve. 

That said, we can find ways to nurture and honour our grief and explore healthy ways to manage the grieving process. Let’s have a look at how we can be kind to ourselves during one of life’s most difficult challenges.

What is grief?

Grief is one of the most human things you can experience. It may be defined as emotional suffering in response to when something or someone you love is taken away. Oftentimes, this suffering takes the form of intense pain, but it can also manifest in many different ways. Have you ever helped someone who is grieving? Do you remember seeing their disbelief, guilt, anger or profound sadness? You may also remember their physical state, often fragile and vulnerable, in response to their loss. These are all completely normal reactions to loss.

What is the grieving process?

The grieving process is the way in which we cope with loss. You may have heard of the five stages of grief, but you do not have to go through each stage in order to heal. Some people are able to find peace without experiencing denial, anger, bargaining or depression. 

One of the most important things to remember is that there is no schedule for grief. We need to be patient with ourselves and accept the waves of suffering that come and go, as well as lean into the gratitude and intimacy we will experience with friends and family who help us along the way. Whether your experience is measured in months or years, it is important to respect your experience and work towards closure.

Why is closure so important?

Closure is a fundamental part of the grieving process. If we do not find closure, we will not be able to accept what has happened and be at peace. Closure is like finishing the chapter in a book. It does not mean that the book has finished or what happened in the previous chapters has been forgotten. It simply means moving on to the next chapter, honouring the past while accepting the present.

Closure stops us from getting caught in a loop and shutting down. Pain and loss are normal responses to grief, but closure is important to begin the healing process.

How can a fitting memorial help?

When you think about your loved one, how do you remember them? Are they laughing while surrounded by friends and family? Are they at their favourite band’s concert? Or are they outdoors, chasing the sun? 

Planning a memorial which honours these memories and creates an experience which reflects the life, personality and passions of our loved one helps us find closure. A fitting memorial not only celebrates their life but allows us to choose how the chapter ends. Grief is often made more difficult because we have no choice in the outcome. A fitting memorial, on the other hand, allows us to plan a celebration that represents everything we loved about a person.

Bare Cremation can help by allowing you to take back control of your loved one’s narrative. Rather than a traditional cremation involving a ceremony, viewing and funeral director, a bare cremation does not require a funeral director, a viewing, or even a specific location. You can choose where and when to hold your memorial, giving you the freedom and power to mark the passing of your loved one with a memorial that is uniquely theirs.

Bare Cremation has helped families farewell their loved ones in personal and meaningful ways. From BBQs by the beach to AC/DC blaring on the backyard speakers, you can commemorate a person’s life in a way that he or she would have loved.

Creating an experience which represents a person and celebrates the way he or she lived can be one of the most powerful forms of closure. If you would like to write your own good-bye, get in touch with us anytime to find out how we can help. 

About Bare Cremation

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